Jilda Shernoff is the founder and creative visionary for the international cosmetics company, Jilda Beverly Hills. Jilda is a former fitness model turned Beverly Hills image consultant. She is now a reality TV personality and has been featured on networks such as E! Entertainment, the Food Network among many others. As aprominent Beverly Hills socialite, Jilda has chosen to use her voice to make a global difference. Jilda’s passion for philanthropy and charitable causes brought her to the place where she is currently writing and producing a documentary entitled, “Why Women Stay”. The documentary based on her soon-to-be released book of the same name. Known for her endless contributions to many local and national charities, Jilda is also an avid supporter and spokeswoman for the House of Ruth, a charity against domestic violence. If you have a question for Jilda, go to http://www.askJilda.com
Dear Jilda,
I am a heterosexual guy. I love people and can make friends with anyone whom is caring, honest and funny. I have many gay friends who fall in these categories and I enjoy their company very much. Unfortunately there are other people and friends in my life who cannot accept or fathom this. What do I do? -Joey, New Jersey
Dear Joey,
You sound very sensitive, smart and open minded. You have a lot of the right insights and criteria for choosing a good friend. It seems to me these people who judge you and your friends fail by your good measure. Anyone who can judge or not accept a wonderful, kind and caring person into their life based on sexual preference may have a identity issues themselves. They may not be the right fit for your kind, loving, nonjudgmental world. My advice to you is to stand by those who makes you happy, feel good and true to yourself.
Dear Jilda,
I am a 34 yr old woman. I am married with 2 children, ages 4 and 6. Raising children is a very tough job. I am always frustrated or tired. I’m no longer my charming self. Lately I have found myself regretting ever having children. If I had it to do over, I wonder if would. I feel guilty about these feelings and would like to know if other women feel this way too. -Anonymous, Nevada
Dear Anonymous,
I am a mother of a 8 year old girl. I love this child with all my heart. But motherhood has changed my life, my friendships, mental stability and identity, not to mention my relationship with my husband. Everything has changed. So like you, I have found some of this difficult. Yet there are upsides. For example, I am much more patient than I have ever been. I’m no longer totally self absorbed. I am a more responsible adult. So yes, motherhood is probably the hardest, all consuming, and life altering experience you’ll ever have. Feelings of regret and guilt about this valid and understandable. Most parents go through this. So here is an idea you might like to try. Designate a “You” day or even a “You” hour. Use that down time from being a Mom just be “You” again. Ask your partner to help coordinate your weekly “You” time. This may be difficult at first, but it can help you deal with the serious challenge of parenting. Take it a day at a time and try not to take set backs too personally. Leave yourself a bit of wiggle room. Some “You” time will translate into being a better parent. Guaranteed!
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